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On The Edge

July 9th, 2010

Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me… I once was blind…

How does the rest of that song end for me today? For you today? If you are struggling with pain and depression the answer has many paths to choose from.

I don’t like to admit that I am depressed. I have found that it get’s me absolutely no where in life. People who are depressed stand by themselves. Those who are also depressed can’t seem to quite help the depressed, and those who are not depressed or have never been depressed simply do not understand and only have patience for a day or so of it. Then they leave. Your sadness is too much for them and they can’t watch you like this. Little do they know that at that moment they have added to your shame and deepened your sadness. If they called on you for help, in any form or fashion, they were calling out.

Basically someone who goes through depression learns that because of this depression they are not normal. This could not be further from the truth, but the isolation makes the mind think crazy thoughts. In thinking they are not normal their self worth begins to diminish and yes I guess it s true, maybe they do stop loving themselves. When I look in the mirror tonight do I love myself? No, I am embarrased that I have gotten to this point and yet all I want to do is get out of this.

I don’t think that is something that people who do not struggle with depression get. The common “cure” they seem to have is “get out there, decide you are not going to fee this way!” I wish, oh how I wish that I was doing this on purpose and I could just talk myself out of it. That would be awesome.

Feelings of depression are caused by a chemical change that affects how the brain functions. It is not something that can be completely controlled. ANYONE can get depression for any reason and it is really pathetic that we know so little behind it causes and we are so afraid to talk about it. Do you realize that you can even get turned down for health insurance if you have a pre-existing condition of depression? It is a medical issue, not a person issue.

For those that feel the push, the sadness, the pain, the unworthiness of depression tonight, look up depression on the internet and start your research there. Then remember that tonight you are not alone in feeling like the future is blurry and you have lost your way. Ask for help and be kind to yourself. Don’t keep beating yourself up over the fact that you don’t feel good.

For those of you who know someone dealing with depression, be a little kinder, listen a little more, talk a little less, hold a little more.

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Are You Made For Each Other?

April 12th, 2010

The couple was walking on the sidewalk. They looked to be totally absorbed with each other. They were not speaking to each other, but a glance at them could tell that they were in deep love and were made for each other. What is this mystical quality of being made for each other? What qualities does this kind of relationship have? Are all the choices same? Or as we say in science, opposites attract. So the choices are totally different? Will a couple having different choices in every aspect love each other or fight over the choices? We can say that at least most of the choices should be very common. If I say that my partner and I are made for each other, what I must mean is this – he/she is the right person for me. There is no other person in the world other than him/her who can make a better couple with me. We are happiest being together and our happiness comes from our relationship.

Are choices the only factor that matter in our life? Is it enough if my eating habits, my dressing choices, my color preferences, my weather preferences and all my other likings are same as my partner, we are made for each other? Is that all to the relationship supposed to be made for each other? There must be something more? What can be that? Let us find out.

Love for each other, a deep longing for others body, heart and words and a feeling of deep satisfaction that is derived when the couple is together. The couple has only one desire- to share everything, every thought, and every emotion. The main goal in life – make and keep the partner happy and feel happy in his/her happiness. Whenever we look at a mother with her child, we never say that they are made for each other, but they share a bond that is very deep. If a couple can somehow share that kind of bond, it can be called ‘made for each other.’

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Apologizing is the way to Freedom

March 13th, 2010


We all make mistakes. Howsoever intelligent we may be, or wealthy, or experienced, we all make mistakes. Sometimes we realize, other times we don’t. But we all make mistakes because we are human. Only God does not ever make any mistake.

Some of our mistakes hurt our interest. They don’t hurt anyone else. But sometimes, we do few things knowingly or unknowingly that hurt others. That is the time to apologize. Why do many of us apologize immediately, and why do many of us avoid it? Why do many of us say sorry even for an insignificant hurt, while some wait for ages to sorry after committing gigantic blunders? That is a mystery. It all depends upon our thinking, our upbringing, our humility, our sense of right and wrong, and our opinion of others feelings and so on. But do we become smaller by saying sorry? Are we confessing a blunder by saying sorry? Are we hurting our ego by saying sorry? Certainly not.

We rather become better by saying sorry. When we say sorry, we feel good, the other party feels good. By saying sorry, we are not making a mistake of confessing a blunder and putting ourselves to risk of ridicule, but saying that- look here, I made this mistake, and I am very sorry for that. Please forgive me and let us be friends again. An apology makes us a better person by cleansing us of our guilt. Let us all say sorry as soon as we realize that by any act of ours, we have hurt someone even if the hurt is insignificant. If the mistake is bigger, our apology should match it to bring matters back to normal.

Let us apologize at all the times, we make a mistake and make someone happy again and get happiness in return.

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Are You Attracted To The Wrong Sort Of Man?

February 14th, 2010

How often have you said to a your friends, îI always seem to pick guys who are bad for me.î

According to Hypnotherapy specialist Roderick Piggott, women who experience a series of broken and unequal relationships, are often suffering from issues of low self-esteem and poor self-image. This causes them to choose the wrong partners again and again.

Low self-esteem can really impact negatively on a persons quality of life, making them feel that they don’t deserve love and respect and are not fit to enjoy a proper, fulfilling relationship. Motivation levels can sink, leaving them feeling low and robbing them of any enthusiasm.

If you suffer from low self-esteem, you blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault; you underestimate your abilities, and you expect things to go wrong for you. Often, low self-esteem is associated with a range of other problems, such as lack of confidence, depression, anxiety, stress and jealousy. If you feel that your opinions and thoughts are worthless, you will find yourself unable to connect or communicate effectively with others, which can become a real issue. This can be picked up by partners, leading to a shift in the balance of a relationship, turning it into something that is unequal and disadvantageous to the weaker partner. Frequently this leads to an abusive relationship and often the cycle is repeated many times.

It simply may not be the ìwrongî man that you choose, it is very probable that a partner will become frustrated and lose respect. Attitudes then change taking the relationship off course.

There are many things that might happen in life that can cause low self-esteem. It could be a traumatic childhood, maybe a respected figure in your life belittled you, perhaps failure at a career or at school, or even a lack of social life or friends. Whatever the causes, it is important to try and get your life back on track and get over these feelings of worthlessness for the sake of yourself and those around you. These negative emotions can reflect in everything you do and say, and can start to affect your whole life.

Women who realize that they need self-esteem help are often too embarrassed to admit to anyone that they have a problem, however many sufferers of low self-esteem are benefiting from hypnotherapy treatments at home, which can literally change peoples lives for the better.

Even though you may want to change the way you feel, to be confident in your thoughts and ideas, to have a sense of faith in your own abilities and know consciously that you are worthwhile and respected, your emotional subconscious mind knows different. Your mind goes back to your deepest insecurities, together with the emotions that are held alongside those memories. Your beliefs are accessed. Your conscious and subconscious mind is in conflict. The subconscious mind wins, every time because your emotions rule. You can change your beliefs by changing your emotions. Hypnosis can do this. And it is easy.

Hypnotherapy treatments work in a very natural way, People are constantly capable of change, which can happen more powerfully in an altered state. In this altered state, which we call hypnosis, suggestions to the sub-conscious mind can supply us with the feelings and emotions that go with imagination and creativity to bring about changes within your feeling system, your emotional system, and this can change your values, perceptions and beliefs. It’s what makes hypnosis an incredibly powerful means to achieve your dreams.

Your subconscious mind has the power to end your struggle with your low self-esteem. Your life will improve if you begin to believe in yourself and your abilities, you will feel respected, giving you that extra boost to increase motivation, and your enthusiasm will increase noticeably. Some people say it feels like magic because it is so easy to make powerful changes. Hypnotherapy simply allows you to access the resources you already have in your subconscious mind.

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Are You Married, Yet Lonesome Tonight?

December 8th, 2009


In spite of being social animals, human beings are essentially lonely creatures. Our search for a life partner stems from a need to fill some deep void that each of us feels in the recesses of our soul. Marriage seems to be the key that unlocks the door and guarantees us release from our ‘solitary confinement’.

Well, so far so good. The first few years of married life are wonderful – a series of romantic attempts on the part of both parties to ‘complete each other’. The mantra seems to be ” You and I together – we don’t need anybody else. Honey, to hell with the world, we have each other.” But the very purpose of coming together appears to get defeated as the new couple tends to isolate itself in a world of its own. Instead of being lonely separately, now they are lonely ‘together’.

Slowly, of course, things changes some more, as in the want of all human relationships. After struggling to find and firmly establish a united identity, suddenly the couple struggles for individuality once again. Where is the I and Me within the Us and We of marriage? Well, you would have better luck looking for a needle in the proverbial haystack as by now “you don not give me enough time” has turned into “you do not give me enough space”! But it is no one’s fault. You see, that’s the nature of marriage. Each shrinks space. Your space. All space.

So you could be sitting in a large, decent size room, enjoying the view outside the window, when suddenly your better half enters. And then, it’s the same room, the same view except that it’s smaller now. It’s about half its size. But of course, you have to be married to know what I am talking about.

So loneliness, did you say? Within marriage? Honey, some days I get reduced to “just give me an hour of peace. And quiet. Alone. And don’t even call”. So forget it. In a ‘good marriage’, there is no scope for being lonely. Heck. There is no time for it. Not with kids. The word has almost dynasoric connotation. When were married women so blessed?

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The Paradox Of Money

November 7th, 2009

Money is probably the most commonly word used around the world. Money, without which lot many things cannot be done. If one has no money, one will have trouble even feeding oneself, leave aside shelter etc. What should be our attitude towards money? How much money should we accumulate and how much should we give away. How many morals and principals can be broken to get more money? And why should we earn more money than absolutely essential? There are many questions about money that come in to mind. Because since ages its money and power that has motivated human beings.

For few of us power matters more than money. And paradoxically money always brings power with it. But power may or may not bring in money. For example if you are the most important person of your country but highly principled, you will have total power but very little money. On the other hand some corrupt dictators have accumulated money beyond any imagination.

For few of us there are other pursuits than money and power. A good scientist gets more excitement with his inventions than any amount of money or power. For each of us there is a different motivator. Money seems to be one of the most common motivator. Cutting costs, raising prices and making more profits, this is the mantra of most of the industries and enterprises. Stock market has attracted people since long only because of the probability of making quick money. Why should lotteries become popular? Should not we depend upon our hard earned money? But lottery tickets are bought around the world. Buyers hope that they may get lucky and earn more money than they could otherwise on a single day. Gambling of all types is again driven by money as the only factor. We can list as many activities as we wish that are driven by attraction for money.

Does money and more money and much more money than others give more peace of mind? Does it give more happiness or more contented life? The answer is not yes in most of the cases. Rather more money brings in more problems. Where to invest? Which bank to choose? What about those who are always requesting for donations and loans? How to keep them away? And what to do with money after one has met all the needs? Buy a still bigger mansion or holiday all the year or begin collecting antiques?

Money. If you have less, you want more and if you have more you don’t know what to do? That is the paradox of money.

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Advice For A Happy Marriage

October 15th, 2009

Some people may think that advice for a happy marriage can be a bit obvious, but if that’s the case why are there so many unhappy marriages? It can be very hard to focus on the big picture when you are on the inside of a long term relationship, so hopefully these tips can rejuvenate your marriage.

Advice for a happy marriage 1-
Communicate. A marriage is nothing without communication-and that doesn’t mean arguing and snapping at each other all the time-that’s not real communication. Communication means switching the TV off for once and sitting down and talking over your day, or letting your partner know in a direct way when there is a problem. A marriage is rarely harmed by some good direct communication.

Advice for a happy marriage 2-
Admit when things are wrong. During a serious relationship it can be very easy to let yourself gloss over things and make believe that everything will be okay. In truth though, if you do this you aren’t being true to yourself, your partner, or your marriage. Problems in marriages are like snowballs rolling down a hill-it’s easier to stop them early. Again, the easiest way to do this when a problem does arise is by simple communication between you both.

Advice for a happy marriage 3-
Know the difference between falling in love and maintaining a loving relationship. Falling in love can often be like being intoxicated, the subject of your love can do no wrong and all different areas of your brain are impaired due to your preoccupation with them. Unfortunately, this state rarely lasts past the first few years of marriage, so in many cases it’s necessary to work together at maintaining a healthy and loving relationship.

Advice for a happy marriage 4-
Put a little karmic theory into your marriage-you get what you give, so if you do everything you can to make your partner happy, the chances are they will step up their efforts to make you happy. The more effort you expend making your partner understand how much they mean to you, the more likely it is for them to reciprocate.

Advice for a happy marriage 5-
Learn that mending a relationship doesn’t mean mending your partner. A marriage includes you both, and so any issues or situations always include both of you. You can’t fix things by modifying the behavior of one person, it has to be a team effort. People aren’t like animals, and you shouldn’t have to marriage train your partner into making you happy. It’s not fair on them, and it’s not fair on you.

This advice for a good marriage can really help in the tough times, so I hope it helps you if you need it. Check out the links below for great info on fixing your marriage.

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Are You Slow to Manifest the Things You Want?

September 5th, 2009

Perhaps you have set out all your goals on paper.  You have a clear intent to make things work this time around but despite your best efforts you still have not attracted the money or the quality of life that you want.

If you are thinking of giving up on believing in the law of attraction I am here to say donít give up.  The law of attraction really works.  Your results can be outstanding if you realize that it is one just one key component in a series of other steps in order to manifest what you want.

Many teachers will have you believe that the law of attraction is all that you ever really need to understand, yet this is not quite so.  And, for those who have a partial understanding about the actual application of the law of attraction their outcome can be dismal and frustrating.

You may see some small results but then work very hard at another goal and see no results at all.  Why is that you ask?

Perhaps you do not know the right formula and if you do know the individual steps perhaps you do not know how or why those steps are necessary to the perfect formula.

There are also techniques to properly visualize.  With visualization there are several detailed and advanced technique that many people do not yet understand.  These simple steps can yield outstanding results when used correctly.

Then there is the matter of staying in alignment with your goal.  Few people understand how crucial it is to remain in alignment with their manifesting goals.  Those who are aware of the need to stay in alignment canít seem to do so easily.

Manifesting should be joyful not frustrating nor should it be a hit or miss.  Like everything in life there are techniques and every technique is based on the perfect formula for success.

How quickly you manifest what you want has everything to do with applying the correct formula and being consistent with it.  Consistency is another necessary part of the equation when trying to manifest anything.  Many people donít know how to keep themselves motivated enough to maintain consistent focus.  Usually not being able to remain focus comes out of not knowing the true manifesting steps.

As you apply the right visualization techniques with the right amount of focus and consistency you can truly see outstanding results.  What previously seemed like a struggle or a hit or miss then becomes great manifesting skills and success.

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Steps to Spiritual Greatness

August 21st, 2009

What is worse than someone who always wins?

Someone who knows they do and gloats over it.

There is no pleasure in watching these types. What we might otherwise admire is destroyed by the even greater contempt we have developed for them. So what if they are good? If they behave as if they rule the world, then it is not admirable.

There was a famous heavy weight boxer who modestly called himself “The Greatest”. Before his peak he was certainly mighty at his trade, and had some admirable qualities. “The Greatest” he was not. Past his peak, with body and mind going to seed, his title was an ironic joke. There was nothing left to admire.

What is admirable and praiseworthy is someone who, though excelling, is humble with it. They don’t strut around with self-importance badged on their chest. They only did their best. In these people we can admire the achievement, and also the person. We praise them on two accounts.

Albert Einstein, considered one of the greatest brains of recent centuries, wrote:

‘My religion consists of a humble admiration of the illimitable superior spirit, who reveals Himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with our frail and feeble mind’

Humility is an essential part of a believer’s character. We may get praise for something, but it does not do to bask in the glory and let it go to our head. Why should we spoil a good work?

The Pharisees did some good works, but by proudly publishing their achievements “they had their reward”. They got the praise of men they wanted. They even thought they would get a guaranteed eternal reward because they were that good! No doubt they were a little surprised at Christ’s comments.

Pride spoils achievement. It blinds us to our faults and makes us devalue the part that God has played. So let us not spoil our hope of salvation.

Some of the greatest men in the Bible were only great because of their humility.

Moses was the meekest of all the men of the earth – God’s words not ours. He had that poor speaking voice which made him feel he wasn’t up to the task. In fact, he was so humble and unassuming that he repeatedly had leadership challenges from those who felt they could do it better.

Although he had good reason not to do so, Moses humbly took on the faults of others, and appealed to God on their behalf and his. What leader today would accept other people’s faults? What leader today became a leader because of their humility? What voters today would vote for someone displaying humility?

What God admires is humility. We can all achieve this. Being humble is within the grasp of every one of us, whether we are incredibly gifted or good looking or whether we devalue our own abilities or lack confidence.

One way to be humble is to remember past failings. The apostle Paul did this, bitterly regretting his persecution of the church. Paul may have been the greatest of the apostles, but he called himself the least.

Some of the greatest men of faith were those who remembered their faults throughout their lives. In fact it was the memory of these faults that produced a humility which made them spiritually great.

Sometimes God brought about difficulty and suffering in believer’s lives to help them be humble. Paul’s thorn in the flesh is the clearest example. I wonder if some of the problems in our own lives are to bring us kicking and screaming to humility?

The good news is that we can use our faults to create our own humility. Let us not beat ourselves over the heads because of them, because we are all forgiven sinners. Rather we should have a healthy appreciation of our limitations, and behave as though we appreciate them.

One behavior pattern that doesn’t help is that of comparing ourselves with others. “Oh, we’re are not as bad as so-and-so.” So-and-so may well be chosen because we can easily match them. God’s advice is that it is not wise to compare like this. If we compare ourselves with Christ, that will soon wipe the smirk off our face.

Humility with excellence is wonderful to behold. Strength and power in the hands of the kind and gentle is awesome. Knowledge and understanding only used for good is truly great knowledge and true understanding. Only God achieves this. The real gentle giant. Praise Him alone and not oneself.

Christ showed the way. “Don’t call me good. No one is good but God”.

Compared to God, we are bits of dust and ash. We are like ants. Less than a worm. So why should we boast?

The first step to spiritual highness is through our humble lowness. This step is one which we must all take.

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A Little More Than Fate

July 25th, 2009

Is there an ideal kind of life that you dream about? Perhaps your ideal life consists of more money, more friends, or more time to do the things you love. Maybe the ideal life is one filled with less work and more vacations. Having the ideal life can be as simple as starting to exercise more, losing weight and becoming healthy again. Whatever kind of life you dream about having, I guarantee that it will take a little more than fate to get you there.

Many, many people believe that fate will take them where they are supposed to go. While I do believe that everything happens for a reason, I also believe that you have an important role in making your own life amazing. I believe that creating the ideal life is not so much about fate as it is about making better choices every day.

There are many ways to assist fate in making your life great. A first important step is to take time to evaluate your life and get a clear picture of where you are really at. Be careful to not idealize your current situation. Commit to being honest with yourself in this process. Look for areas of your life that are going well and look for areas that could use improvement or extra care. If you’ve left your life in the hands of fate, there is a good chance that you’ll have some work to do in the weeks and months ahead.

Once you have evaluated your life clearly, take time to consider the kind of life you really want. If fate could give you any kind of life you wanted, what would it look like? Write down everything you think of even if it seems too hard to attain.

Your ideal life will not happen without intentional action. Take the description of your dream life and begin breaking it down into goals that you can work toward. If you desire to have a better job, take steps to finding a new job by looking at job postings or by inquiring at businesses in your area. The more proactive you are, the more you can cooperate with fate and change your life.

A better life is possible for every single person in the world. No matter how bad things are or how good things are for you right now, things can always get better. Work with fate instead of against it by taking action and moving toward the things you dream about. No matter what the result, your life will be richer and more full because of your pro activity.

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