The Bible specifically calls on us to not be unequally yoked. Those of us who have ever been in a serious relationship with a non-Christian know that usually we go down much faster than we bring them to the thrown of God. Not always, but usually. That is why it is a bad idea. Anything that takes us off the path God has us on is unhealthy. I even know that despite what people may say, even dating a non- Christian is rather futile.

However, what is a Christian man? Following that, where is one to be found? Now really, think about these questions. I don’t want the standard answers. Don’t tell me to read Proverbs. I want to know in plain and simple terms, what is a Christian man and do they really exist anymore? (I know they do, but why do they loose their mind in their thirties?)

I can already hear the balking coming from the male species but think this out. As a single man, your choices are much, much more than a single woman’s. More than likely you don’t have full custody of the kids. More than likely you can pick someone 10 years younger than you and they will probably be able to catch up rather quickly on the maturity scale. As a single man you just have more choices. Fine, that is our (the female’s) cross to bear. Got it. So then why can’t the choices be better?

In the past two years since I have been divorced I have been on only a handful of dates. Most of them lasted about an hour. Then I was done. Or they said I talked too much. Whatever. Anyway, Out of that handful, I met three that lasted in some way or another for quite a few months. One, last year, was long distance so I sort of saw the end coming unless I was willing to move to Nebraska. Let me tell you though, this guy was, on the surface, a Christian to boot. Actually, he was really genuine. He was the first guy I had ever met that asked me to pray with him. He would call me every morning on the way to work and pray. However, he had some major issues of his own, and a strange inability to lead or to trust God to help him lead. He simply had no concept of “Head of Household.” Oh but how he loved God. He loved God and respected me so much that when he came out here to visit he spent the whole weekend texting another girl. That was awesome Christian man behavior. There is just no defending that. I never answered his phone calls ever again.

So that was a “Great Christian Guy.” This is what I don’t get. The next “date” was not a Christian. (I already know.) He was however everything else. He was beautiful, wealthy, kind, endearing, and super intelligent. We would talk from sundown to sunrise. It turned out that we would never be anything but friends, but the guy is amazing. Did I mention he is an Agnostic? Most of our discussions revolved around that. To this day this guy and I remain friends. The only reason I have never dated him is because he is not a Christian. However I think the whole thing is somewhat of an ironic joke and I do have it out with God every once in a while. We are talking about a man who has no belief in God, yet who knows how to treat people better than most Christians, including myself. Will the real Christian Men please stand up?

The third guy I consider fairly serious, I dated for about 4 months. This one recently came to an end and seriously gives me pause. This guy seemed to be just a really great Christian guy, and then he seemed too great. Especially when he started to tell me that God had chosen him as his head commander here down on earth for the new army. I thought he was kidding. Apparently he was not. However, I kept praying about this and kept feeling somewhat at peace, maybe lazy, maybe just content. He was nice and good to my kids, until one day he was not. One day he blew up on my kids, in front of my kids, about my kids to my kids. You get the picture. He was so nasty. It was like a demon or another personality coming out of him. I was afraid for my children and I was afraid for me. I knew at that point that no matter how sorry he might be, which he never was, I would never trust him around my children again. I am positive he is abusive. I know he is verbally abusive. I have been there before. I know what comes next. Again, will the Christian men please stand up?

Here is one thing I have noticed, there seems to a trend among Christian men in their 30’s that I hear often. Many of them are simply not established. Somehow or another they feel that getting right with God means completely changing everything in their life. It might mean that, but it doesn’t mean that if in doing so you are going to cause great havoc in everyone else’s life. If you are responsible for other people (let’s say kids?) You just can’t up and move to a different state and honestly say you are in the will of God. It does not add up. You can’t keep changing jobs, and have no way to take care of a family and think it is ok to date or marry. You are not 18. You are dating differently and many of the women you are dating have kids. They can barely support themselves much less support you as you consider changing careers every other month. For whatever reason, Christian men seem to fall victim to this. Maybe it is Satan’s way of destroying them where he knows he can. I don’t know, but there certainly seems to be an awful lot of wayward soldiers out there.

I am convinced that God did not mean for those of us who do not wish to be alone, to be alone. It does not matter what the circumstances were before. I am just asking for someone to explain the possibly unexplainable.

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One of the most debated subjects around the world is forgiveness. Somebody does something wrong, either against an individual, or against the society. To forgive means to pardon the accused with no resentment left. If forgiveness is complete, the act of offense is totally forgotten, as if it never took place.

Title: Forgiveness
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Summary:One of the most debated subjects around the world is forgiveness. Somebody does something wrong, either against an individual, or against the society.

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Article Body:One of the most debated subjects around the world is forgiveness. Somebody does something wrong, either against an individual, or against the society. To forgive means to pardon the accused with no resentment left. If forgiveness is complete, the act of offense is totally forgotten, as if it never took place.
To talk about forgiveness is easy, and to forgive is difficult. Many a times it becomes impossible for some of us. For example if I am a mother. A criminal kidnaps my child and then slowly kills my child in my presence to derive sadistic pleasure, how will I feel? What about the cries of pain of my dying child? Will my mind forget them? What of the helplessness that I felt? What about the expectation with which my child looked at me and felt sure that mother would do something to save him/her? What of the helplessness I felt? What about the memories of bringing up my child? What about the dreams that I had? What about the pain and torture my child underwent while dying?
My nightmares will haunt me forever. Anything that belonged to my child will bring the memories of death back like a wave. My sadness will overwhelm me forever and my silent fury against my own weakness will kill me. Can I ever forgive that man? Can I ever forget that act after pardoning him? Will you?
This is the most difficult part of forgiveness. It becomes impossible to forgive. The scars go so deep that even after the man is sentenced for the crime, the mother will never feel complete. No amount of punishment given to that man will ever bring the child back. No clock will ever turn back. The pain that the child underwent cannot be taken away at all.
I am doomed to live in misery forever unless I forgive. But I cannot forgive. I know that many people will come and ask me to forgive. What if they underwent something similar? Will they forgive?

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Title: Coping With A Divorce
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Summary:In this article I am going to explain about how a friend of mine managed to get through a rather messy divorce and how she came through the whole experience a much stronger person. I hope her story helps other people who have or are going through a divorce.

Keywords:divorce, love, marriage, children, positive, happy, depressed

Article Body:In this article I am going to explain about how a friend of mine managed to get through a rather messy divorce and how she came through the whole experience a much stronger person. I hope her story helps other people who have or are going through a divorce.
My friend is called Sue and she married her childhood sweetheart called John when she was only twenty-two. Sue has explained that at the time she could not have been happier and was very much in love. She hoped and imagined that they would spend the rest of their lives together. Sue had met John when she was at school and they had been dating since the age of fifteen.
After the marriage, they then talked about starting a family and before long they were parents to two boys. Sue believed that this was the icing on the cake and left work to bring up her children.
Unfortunately things were to soon go horribly wrong. John started coming home later and later from work and Sue was at a loss as to what was going on. John of course stated that he was only doing his work and that he was working overtime to give his family a better life, especially as Sue was no longer working. In reality John was having an affair with a woman he had met at work.
After a few months Sue found out about the affair and asked John as to why he had seeked the attention of this other woman. He replied that Sue had been the only woman he had slept with and that he felt that he had missed out on the experience of dating other people. Despite the fact that Sue was willing to forgive John, the relationship was soon to end as he moved in to live with his other woman.
Sue was obviously very upset and could not believe what was happening to her. Before long divorce proceedings were under way and Sue decided to put the family house on the market and returned home to live with her parents, the boys of course went with her.
This was a very depressing time for Sue. One day however she was walking through her local shopping precint and saw a group of handicapped children. Sue thought to herself that the situation she was in was only temporary and that she would eventually be happy again, but that these children would more than likely to be handicapped for life. This strangely enough helped Sue to gain the strength and to think positive about the future.
Sue is now re-married and is once again very happy, she still hates her ex-husband however. Sue has learnt a lot from her experience of getting divorced and tries to think in a much more positive way. She has realised that there are many people in the world in a far worse position than what she is in.

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How does the rest of that song end for me today? For you today? If you are struggling with pain and depression the answer has many paths to choose from.

I don’t like to admit that I am depressed. I have found that it get’s me absolutely no where in life. People who are depressed stand by themselves. Those who are also depressed can’t seem to quite help the depressed, and those who are not depressed or have never been depressed simply do not understand and only have patience for a day or so of it. Then they leave. Your sadness is too much for them and they can’t watch you like this. Little do they know that at that moment they have added to your shame and deepened your sadness. If they called on you for help, in any form or fashion, they were calling out.

Basically someone who goes through depression learns that because of this depression they are not normal. This could not be further from the truth, but the isolation makes the mind think crazy thoughts. In thinking they are not normal their self worth begins to diminish and yes I guess it s true, maybe they do stop loving themselves. When I look in the mirror tonight do I love myself? No, I am embarrased that I have gotten to this point and yet all I want to do is get out of this.

I don’t think that is something that people who do not struggle with depression get. The common “cure” they seem to have is “get out there, decide you are not going to fee this way!” I wish, oh how I wish that I was doing this on purpose and I could just talk myself out of it. That would be awesome.

Feelings of depression are caused by a chemical change that affects how the brain functions. It is not something that can be completely controlled. ANYONE can get depression for any reason and it is really pathetic that we know so little behind it causes and we are so afraid to talk about it. Do you realize that you can even get turned down for health insurance if you have a pre-existing condition of depression? It is a medical issue, not a person issue.

For those that feel the push, the sadness, the pain, the unworthiness of depression tonight, look up depression on the internet and start your research there. Then remember that tonight you are not alone in feeling like the future is blurry and you have lost your way. Ask for help and be kind to yourself. Don’t keep beating yourself up over the fact that you don’t feel good.

For those of you who know someone dealing with depression, be a little kinder, listen a little more, talk a little less, hold a little more.

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Title: Divorce Advice, Where Can You Turn?
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Summary:Divorce is such a nasty thing and people should hate the destruction and harm that it does to everyone involved. The problem is that even people that hate it become victims of it inevitably. So there needs to be a source of divorce advice for those that are not using it selfishly as a way to “legitimately” escape a relationship for purely selfish reasons. Reasons like desiring more sexual conquest, or escape from something hard like a terminal illness in a spouse, or bad fina…

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Article Body:Divorce is such a nasty thing and people should hate the destruction and harm that it does to everyone involved. The problem is that even people that hate it become victims of it inevitably. So there needs to be a source of divorce advice for those that are not using it selfishly as a way to “legitimately” escape a relationship for purely selfish reasons. Reasons like desiring more sexual conquest, or escape from something hard like a terminal illness in a spouse, or bad financial luck in a spouse, or simply lack of loyalty, and unwillingness to put in the effort that the normal hard work that a relationship takes.
People should not be rewarded for pettiness, selfishness, greed, shallow hearts, laziness, lust, deceit, and on and on. Therefore there needs to be divorce advice for both holding these people accountable and for protecting the people that are victimized by the cruelty of some. At this time advice that does these things is sadly very rare, and this is part of the reason why divorce is so rampant in today’s society.
When you think of victims most of the time your mind pictures a poor helpless middle-aged mother who has been abandoned by an evil “player” husband for a younger and less “used” woman. This victim chose out of love and loyalty to forgo the chance to better herself with an education and career to love and raise their children and bears the scars of this sacrifice literally and figuratively. While these scars of sacrifice should make her more sexy to a man who can see and understand what a gift to him they are, they do just the opposite, and he takes off. This is common and these women need good sound divorce advice for protection and to preserve their future.
Presently however this is becoming less and less typical now the opposite is true. The man who is loyal and working hard to raise his kids and provide for his family is the unattractive and boring one who gets dropped like a bad habit for a more exciting and dangerous man. These men, because this is a relatively new phenomena made possible in large part by the women’s liberation movement (which had its good points, don’t get me wrong), are in desperate need of good divorce advice because they find it harder to convince judges of their plight.
The good news is that good divorce is there to find for whatever case you may find yourself in. It is becoming more common too as the demand gets greater sadly. So there is hope you just need to do your homework and you will recover from this terrible time.

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Title: Healing Anger and Violence in Our Society
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Summary:I have counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for the past 35 years and authored eight published books. All this experience has resulted in the development of a profound six-step healing process, called Inner Bonding, which anyone can learn and use throughout the day (FREE course available – see resource box).

Keywords:news, society, jobs, economy, politics, anger, violence, unionized, social security, work, crime, criminal

Article Body:I have counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for the past 35 years and authored eight published books. All this experience has resulted in the development of a profound six-step healing process, called Inner Bonding, which anyone can learn and use throughout the day (FREE course available – see resource box).
The violence in Littleton, Colorado sparked many discussions regarding the cause of such horrifying behavior on the part of two teenage boys. I would like to address this in terms on Inner Bonding.
In my experience, it is not possible for us as human beings to be violent when we are connected to our true, core Self and to a source of spiritual guidance. When we do the work we need to do to develop a spiritually connected loving adult self, we have an inner adult who places limits on our behavior regarding harming ourselves and others.
However, it is very common in our society for people to lose touch with their true, core Self. Since our core Self holds our intrinsic feelings of compassion and empathy for others, losing touch with this aspect of ourselves may cause us to be able to harm others without feeling any pain or remorse over it. The question is, then, how do we lose our connection with our core Selves?
Many child development experts state that those people who disconnect from their empathy and compassion, generally do so between the ages of two and four. If our parents lacked empathy and compassion for our feelings and needs, we might have chosen to be caretakers and take care of their needs, or we might have chosen to become like them and not care about others’ feelings and needs. We may have had no role modeling for maintaining our own inner connection. If our parents shut themselves down to our pain and their own, we may have learned to shut down to our own and others vulnerable feelings. If, in addition, we were physically, sexually, emotionally or verbally abused or neglected, we may have shut down to survive.
Some children, whose parents were shut down or abusive, manage to stay connected with their core Selves through contact with animals such as dogs or horses, while others stay connected through contact with relatives or friends with whom they identify. But many young children just disconnect to survive. When in this disconnected state, if they watch violence on TV or practice violence through video games, they may further train themselves to numb out against compassion, empathy, and the pain of harming others.
Likewise, if children grow up with no personal connection with a source of spiritual guidance, they may not know that we are all one, and they may not consider the possibility that the consequences of their actions may follow them into their lives after death.
Without connection with their core Self and their spiritual guidance, they are left with only their wounded selves. If they happen to be operating from an enraged wounded self, this self can certainly act out in angry and violent ways. With no loving inner Adult to set limits, the harm to themselves or others can be disastrous, as we have seen.
While limiting guns is certainly a good thing to do, it will not stop the violence. This violence will not stop until we no longer need to learn, as very young children, to barricade our hearts. As parents and teachers we need to be practicing a healing process such as Inner Bonding so that we can reclaim our core Selves and our deep connection with God. Only by doing our own inner work will we be able to be the loving role models that our children need. The change in our society must come from within each of us.

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Are choices the only factor that matter in our life? Is it enough if my eating habits, my dressing choices, my color preferences, my weather preferences and all my other likings are same as my partner, we are made for each other? Is that all to the relationship supposed to be made for each other? There must be something more? What can be that? Let us find out.

Love for each other, a deep longing for others body, heart and words and a feeling of deep satisfaction that is derived when the couple is together. The couple has only one desire- to share everything, every thought, and every emotion. The main goal in life – make and keep the partner happy and feel happy in his/her happiness. Whenever we look at a mother with her child, we never say that they are made for each other, but they share a bond that is very deep. If a couple can somehow share that kind of bond, it can be called ‘made for each other.’

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Some of our mistakes hurt our interest. They don’t hurt anyone else. But sometimes, we do few things knowingly or unknowingly that hurt others. That is the time to apologize. Why do many of us apologize immediately, and why do many of us avoid it? Why do many of us say sorry even for an insignificant hurt, while some wait for ages to sorry after committing gigantic blunders? That is a mystery. It all depends upon our thinking, our upbringing, our humility, our sense of right and wrong, and our opinion of others feelings and so on. But do we become smaller by saying sorry? Are we confessing a blunder by saying sorry? Are we hurting our ego by saying sorry? Certainly not.

We rather become better by saying sorry. When we say sorry, we feel good, the other party feels good. By saying sorry, we are not making a mistake of confessing a blunder and putting ourselves to risk of ridicule, but saying that- look here, I made this mistake, and I am very sorry for that. Please forgive me and let us be friends again. An apology makes us a better person by cleansing us of our guilt. Let us all say sorry as soon as we realize that by any act of ours, we have hurt someone even if the hurt is insignificant. If the mistake is bigger, our apology should match it to bring matters back to normal.

Let us apologize at all the times, we make a mistake and make someone happy again and get happiness in return.

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According to Hypnotherapy specialist Roderick Piggott, women who experience a series of broken and unequal relationships, are often suffering from issues of low self-esteem and poor self-image. This causes them to choose the wrong partners again and again.

Low self-esteem can really impact negatively on a persons quality of life, making them feel that they don’t deserve love and respect and are not fit to enjoy a proper, fulfilling relationship. Motivation levels can sink, leaving them feeling low and robbing them of any enthusiasm.

If you suffer from low self-esteem, you blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault; you underestimate your abilities, and you expect things to go wrong for you. Often, low self-esteem is associated with a range of other problems, such as lack of confidence, depression, anxiety, stress and jealousy. If you feel that your opinions and thoughts are worthless, you will find yourself unable to connect or communicate effectively with others, which can become a real issue. This can be picked up by partners, leading to a shift in the balance of a relationship, turning it into something that is unequal and disadvantageous to the weaker partner. Frequently this leads to an abusive relationship and often the cycle is repeated many times.

It simply may not be the ìwrongî man that you choose, it is very probable that a partner will become frustrated and lose respect. Attitudes then change taking the relationship off course.

There are many things that might happen in life that can cause low self-esteem. It could be a traumatic childhood, maybe a respected figure in your life belittled you, perhaps failure at a career or at school, or even a lack of social life or friends. Whatever the causes, it is important to try and get your life back on track and get over these feelings of worthlessness for the sake of yourself and those around you. These negative emotions can reflect in everything you do and say, and can start to affect your whole life.

Women who realize that they need self-esteem help are often too embarrassed to admit to anyone that they have a problem, however many sufferers of low self-esteem are benefiting from hypnotherapy treatments at home, which can literally change peoples lives for the better.

Even though you may want to change the way you feel, to be confident in your thoughts and ideas, to have a sense of faith in your own abilities and know consciously that you are worthwhile and respected, your emotional subconscious mind knows different. Your mind goes back to your deepest insecurities, together with the emotions that are held alongside those memories. Your beliefs are accessed. Your conscious and subconscious mind is in conflict. The subconscious mind wins, every time because your emotions rule. You can change your beliefs by changing your emotions. Hypnosis can do this. And it is easy.

Hypnotherapy treatments work in a very natural way, People are constantly capable of change, which can happen more powerfully in an altered state. In this altered state, which we call hypnosis, suggestions to the sub-conscious mind can supply us with the feelings and emotions that go with imagination and creativity to bring about changes within your feeling system, your emotional system, and this can change your values, perceptions and beliefs. It’s what makes hypnosis an incredibly powerful means to achieve your dreams.

Your subconscious mind has the power to end your struggle with your low self-esteem. Your life will improve if you begin to believe in yourself and your abilities, you will feel respected, giving you that extra boost to increase motivation, and your enthusiasm will increase noticeably. Some people say it feels like magic because it is so easy to make powerful changes. Hypnotherapy simply allows you to access the resources you already have in your subconscious mind.

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Well, so far so good. The first few years of married life are wonderful – a series of romantic attempts on the part of both parties to ‘complete each other’. The mantra seems to be ” You and I together – we don’t need anybody else. Honey, to hell with the world, we have each other.” But the very purpose of coming together appears to get defeated as the new couple tends to isolate itself in a world of its own. Instead of being lonely separately, now they are lonely ‘together’.

Slowly, of course, things changes some more, as in the want of all human relationships. After struggling to find and firmly establish a united identity, suddenly the couple struggles for individuality once again. Where is the I and Me within the Us and We of marriage? Well, you would have better luck looking for a needle in the proverbial haystack as by now “you don not give me enough time” has turned into “you do not give me enough space”! But it is no one’s fault. You see, that’s the nature of marriage. Each shrinks space. Your space. All space.

So you could be sitting in a large, decent size room, enjoying the view outside the window, when suddenly your better half enters. And then, it’s the same room, the same view except that it’s smaller now. It’s about half its size. But of course, you have to be married to know what I am talking about.

So loneliness, did you say? Within marriage? Honey, some days I get reduced to “just give me an hour of peace. And quiet. Alone. And don’t even call”. So forget it. In a ‘good marriage’, there is no scope for being lonely. Heck. There is no time for it. Not with kids. The word has almost dynasoric connotation. When were married women so blessed?

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